Still crazy after all these (28) years

Posted: September 15, 2012 in Family, Gifts, Memories, Personal
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By Saturday afternoon, Bill and I will have reached another milestone on our trip together through life–28 years of marriage.  It’s been quite a ride!

We met in a little roadhouse after a rugby game, me seated at probably the only table with an open seat, he both hands filled with burgers, tired, sweaty and needing to sit down.  We ended talking about books, he about sci-fi, me about non-sci-fi (and so it somewhat remains, as those of you who are Friday Fictioneers might already realize, he being the creator of the zombie Zeds, me the mostly upbeat one.)

We survived the aftermath of difficult prior relationships, of each meeting the family of the other, the “On sale” sticker on the bottom of his shoe that was on view during the wedding (not difficult to survive at all and a hilarious start to our marriage), learning about all the ways we were different (quite a few) and realizing that most of them added spice to life (and the rest need to be overlooked), and a host of small and not-so-small things that might have derailed us, had we not been committed to making our marriage work.

We both survived and loved having (and home schooling) two daughter who are now well on their way to being beautiful, talented and unique women.  We survived me teaching him to ride horses in the mountains of Wyoming.  We survived and loved family vacations every year, changes in jobs, changes in churches, living apart  (for work and logical reasons but with one of us moved six hours away for too many years), changes in friends and losses of family members.  We even survived Nebraska joining the Big 10, which brought about the dreaded situation once posited by our younger daughter when she was little:  “Mom, if Nebraska played Ohio State, what would happen?”  Answer:  “I’d root for Nebraska; Dad would root for Ohio State.”  They did and we did and we are yet married!  🙂

We survived and thrived.

We survived cancer.

And we’ve survived much longer than many marriages in our country have survived.  For that I’m truly thankful.  On this day of our 28th anniversary ( Saturday, Sept. 15, 2012), I want to give a shout out to my husband, Bill, creator of the Zeds, a person who still, after all these years, couldn’t in some ways be more different than I am and who couldn’t, in the ways that count, be closer to my heart and integral to my life.  Thanks for 28 (mostly) wonderful years.  Despite any poems from my past about love and loss, what I have with you is the real deal and I pray for and look forward to many, many more years of laughter, craziness and love.

Oh yes…and of Nebraska defeating Ohio State!

  1. Happy 28th Anniversary…This is such a beautiful way to say: I love you

    • Many thanks!

      I was at a used bookstore yesterday and right there on the cover of a book about training puppies was a cute little weimaraner that looked just like you! It put a smile on my face. (You have to love spell check. It market “weimaraner” and suggested “maharanee” instead!! Yeah, that’s close. Somehow I doubt that an Indian princess or wife of a raji would fit in that sentence (or be on the front of a book on puppy training!!)

  2. Robin in New Jersey says:

    Happy Anniversary, Janet and Bill! May the Lord continue to bless your marriage and life together!

  3. Paul says:

    Beautiful post. Congrats!

  4. Here’s to 28 more years. Lovely article. Thank you for sharing.

  5. Awww… both of your posts made me feel that way. Awww.

    It’s so nice to know both of you, and I now I know that the two of you are together, and how wonderful (and happy) you look together. Marriage is an amazing and wonderful thing, that brings two people so close…congratulations to both of you and many happy more years ahead.

    Now please excuse me while I shed a few tears of happiness.

    Wait make that happiiiiiness.

    • 🙂 I’d say more, but I think Bill’s already busting your chops and III don’t want to overdo it. Waiiit. Diid II really say that? Enjoying know and quipping with you, too.

  6. boomiebol says:

    This is just beautiful! Congratulations to both of you, and here’s to many more happy healthy, and blessings filled years together.

    Your post made me teary eyed…thanks for sharing your beautiful love.

    • Thanks, Boomie. We can drive each other nuts, but there’s no one else we’d rather have driving us nuts. 🙂 And the good/great times greatly outweigh the bad/not-so-good.

  7. globalunison says:

    Happy 28th Anniversary to both of you. You are so pretty! Before, I had this idea that you were fortunate to have him but now I am sure that you both are equally lucky to have each other.
    May you both live long with health and happiness. Amen.
    With love and blessings,

  8. Congratulations on your 28th wedding anniversary! What a beautiful and touching post. God is so glorified by testimonies like yours. Blessings to you and your husband!
    ~ Wendy

  9. russtowne says:

    I’m so happy that the two of you found each other and did what it took to survive and thrive in your marriage for so long! Congratulations to both of you!