I spent the first part of the day enjoying how amazing the house looks with all the prep and painting done.  Now I can’t think about anything except today’s events.  While I watch the coverage of the shootings at the school in Sandy Hook, Connecticut, I want to write that I can’t imagine hearing that there had been a shooting at your child’s school, going there and hearing that your child’s class  had been wiped out by a murderer.  But that’s all I can do–imagine–and be thankful that I don’t know this indescribable hurt personally.  I can only imagine what it would be like to send your child to school and never have him or her come home alive…and it hurts. 


It doesn’t matter to me what this man’s life was like.  There is no excuse for what he did and he is not a “shooter”, he’s a murderer.  Words matter.  What kind of person gets up, shoots his mother in the face, then drives to the school and kills children?  I admit that I’m sorry he was so selfish as to kill himself because I and these parents won’t get to see him punished.  But I do believe he is being punished for what he did.

My heart, or something inside, literally aches.  I was also hurt and angered by a facile, hateful Facebook post that said this:

A merry Christmas from the National Rifle Association. May all of its members and advocates feel proud of what they have done and continue to do to our country.

I refuse to turn this post into a political discussion so I’m just leaving it at that.  My finger has never hovered so close to de-friending as it did at the moment I read that.  Whatever your thoughts on gun control, this statement is egregious.

My prayers go out for everyone who lost a child or adult family member today, for those who will face unwrapped gifts under the Christmas tree, who won’t ever get to hold their children again or see them grow up.  They go out for those first responders and all who have to deal with this tragedy.  And they go out for all of us who have to more and more often deal with incidents of this type.  My own opinion is that when there are less and less restraints in society, when anything goes and not only goes but is celebrated, that undesirable behaviors (at least undesirable to many of us) will only proliferate.

But tonight and this Christmas, look past whatever “issues” are in your family or between you and a friend and consider with thanks the fact that you have time make it right, to hug that person, to call them, to give them a Christmas gift.  Spend time with your children and other family members.  Get off the phone and computer, away from the television, sit down and talk with your friends. Spend time on relationships.  Reach out to your estranged family member, even if you’re rejected.  Hug your children.  And say a prayer for those who have been robbed of that chance.

  1. penggerutuamatir says:

    Deepest condolences from Indonesia for that incident

  2. Very heart-felt Jan, thank you for sharing your thoughts on this tragic travesty. hugs and love ((xx))

  3. Yes – this is so very awful, and I’ve also been disgusted by people trotting out whatever they enjoy despising so they can blame it for this horror.

    • Even if you control guns (or whatever else, such as the attempt to control alcohol), the people who want to get them (whatever the “them” is) manage all to often to get them anyway. Or if they don’t use guns, they use knives, bombs (easy to make with free instructions on the internet, I understand) or cars (as in drunk driving) or whatever else they can get their hands on. My question would be how can we try to get more people to the point where they have the internal controls not to use any of these things for evil. That’s also difficult, especially when God (and I don’t care which god) is taken out of life on all sides and we’re constantly told, verbally or by pictures/movies/TV, that anything is OK.

  4. I had written a post but it got very political so I decided not to post it, it’s just simple impossible not to get political, specially when some use the Second Amendment just when is convenient to themselves.
    Really nice post.

    • I find it hard not to get political too often, but I really just wanted this to be about the loss and how that loss, even when it’s not directly ours, should make us realize what’s important and how blessed we are.

  5. Thanks for this post…

    • You’re welcome and thanks for the comment, which lets me know it hit home. It’s a very difficult time and subject. Just wish I could do something more for those poor people.

  6. Joyce says:

    Every moment, every day counts. What we do with it will make a difference in someone’s life, if not just one’s own. It might be in one of those moments of reaching out when a relationship is restored, a heart is changed, one is encouraged, one is healed.

  7. Joyce says:

    Janet, I forgot to mention too. That picture above says a lot. Broken. It speaks.

  8. I’m still reeling. This school was very close to me, and everyone around here has been affected, directly or not. It’s comforting to hear voices of reason at this time though, just like yours. Thank you for taking a risk and writing about this from your heart.

  9. I, too, feel sorry and sad for those who have lost someone in this horrible incident.
    I pray for them to find comfort and solace in some uplifting way.

  10. Very nice post, Janet.