Confessions of an addict, part 1

Posted: April 18, 2016 in Musings, Personal
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My name’s Janet and I’m an addict.

It began innocently enough just over four years ago.  It wasn’t my fault.  My husband and younger daughter are to blame.  They told me, “You love to write.  You’ll love blogging You’ll be good at it.”  After a time, I took the plunge, soldiering through the process of actually setting up my blog.  The last step (as my muddled mind recalls) was to enter the name of my blog.  Name?  I’m supposed to have a name?  Not wanting to start the process again, I decided on something to cover all bases:  “This, that, and the other thing.”  The first step down the road to addiction was taken.

Initially, I wrote…about this, that, and the other thing.  I reveled in the first non-family person to “like” one of my blog posts and the first to hit “follow.”  I sourced my few photos online (with attribution), until I realized that it was difficult to find some that I knew were available for use and weren’t going to infringe on someone else’s work.  Even free clip art isn’t always free (go figure) and any photos I wanted to use, I didn’t unless I asked permission.

Then I got an iPhone and a digital SLR and things changed again.

I discovered how easy it was to use my own photos. I discovered challenges,both writing and photographic, a great way to meet bloggers and get people to visit your blog.  BUT (and as you can see, that’s a big “but”), you have to be prepared to visit lots of other blogs, which is fun, but also time-consuming.  Eventually I discovered editing apps for my photos and another addiction was truly enabled.

And I discovered something I really love:  meeting and talking with new people, people all over the world, with no long-distance costs.  I experienced the joy of meeting some of these people in person.  I discovered that I was blogging every day and couldn’t imagine missing a day, even when it felt overwhelming, when I struggled to keep up with all the blogs I followed.  I discovered my blogging time was sometimes fighting with time for  real life.

I’m addicted to blogging.
I fight to keep control of blogging, rather than letting it control me.
It’s an ongoing battle, one I fight each day to win.

  1. RuthsArc says:

    It’s a nice addiction to have but oh so time consuming. Good luck getting the balance between online life and real life. A balance that fits you. It is different for all of us.

  2. shalysewb says:

    “I’m addicted to blogging.
    I fight to keep control of blogging, rather than letting it control me.
    It’s an ongoing battle, one I fight each day to win.”

    I resonate with this so much.

    • I think all of us who blog face this. I know I’m not alone and if I had thought so, the responses to this would have let me know otherwise. It’s certainly better than many addictions, that’s for sure.


  3. Tish Farrell says:

    Recognising so much here, Janet. One thing leading to another…

    • Sue says:

      Haha, me too!

    • I remember when I first went on the internet. It was summer and I was inside, following rabbit trails all over the place. I kept going to another site, then another, and so on. One day I metaphorically shook my head, slapped myself back into reality, and got back into the real world. But blogging brings an entirely new set of great places to go and there’s always another one that looks good. Challenges are especially challenging, as I feel that I should/want to visit all the other entries and comment if at all possible, not just hit “like.” But that can be an overwhelming task.


  4. I’m addicted too… and I wish we had a trick to stop the time while blogging, that would be great :o)

  5. margademmers says:

    Keep up the good work! And you know what, you’re doing great. About finding a balance, I have been there too. It is a matter you have to be aware of constantly. For me it was difficult to get out of the house when I was still a freelance translator. Photography saved me, that is my addiction now as it taught me, amongst other things, to really look and see! Enjoy your day!

  6. Su Leslie says:

    Like Tish, I’m recognising myself here. For an introvert like me, blogging is a wonderful form of expression.

    • It really is, Su. My husband started blogging when he was diagnosed with advanced thyroid cancer (he’s still cancer-free now) and it made such a difference to him. He’s currently not blogging much, but it was a life-saver at the time. Meeting people is really what I love about it and I hope to meet more of them in person in the future.


      • Su Leslie says:

        So glad to hear your husband is cancer-free now. I can’t remember now quite why I started this blog, but it has become such an important part of my life and yes, what I love the most is meeting people. Like you, I hope to meet more in person too. Cheers, Su.

      • The internet can be good or bad, but meeting people through blogging is definitely one of the big pluses! We hope to get to NZ one day, so maybe…


      • Su Leslie says:

        Fingers crossed.

  7. leannenz says:

    Lol! Love it Janet. Nicely written!

  8. In a big city alone this is a great life line for me. I see myself in your tale..

  9. There’s always BA.
    Bloggers Anonymous.
    Just don’t go to the online meeting….


  10. Hammad Rais says:

    I’m also addicted to this now.

  11. I’m not a FB, Twitter or any of the other social media site addict. My on-line addiction is blogging as well. You and I have never met in person, but I still feel I know you through your blog and look forward to seeing what you are up to. It’s like going to the mailbox looking for letters. But, it certainly does have to be balanced with living life. Most days I set aside three times a day to check in and the rest of the time I go about living life. Good luck with your balance, Janet. 🙂

    • Judy, I’m not on Twitter or any of the other social media things, things I don’t even know about. I am on FB, but have cut back my time drastically. I pose a link to my blog post every day and keep in touch to some extent there with friends and relatives that aren’t nearby. But so much of it is just people posting “stuff” or posting things that seem to be all about promoting themselves or their business or product. I understand that social media is important for selling and getting your name out there, but sometimes I just want to see less a/o more personal things, not promotions.

      I feel as though I know you from blogging, too, and whenever we get up your way, I’ll be looking forward to meeting you and others in the Northeast. That’s one of my favorite things about blogging. Your analogy of looking for letters is very true, and I always love a good letter.


  12. I. Greenwald says:

    Isn’t it amazing how challenges can suck you right in? I took a couple of weeks off last year, it was unsuccsessful, so I went to rehab. A do it yourself one person rehab. (Actually I took 6 ish months off.) Great article. 🙂

  13. Dan Antion says:

    I share your addiction Janet, for many of the same reasons. I keep weeding the mix of followers and followees, but I’m glad I found you in the mix one day (and you’re still here). I’m sorry (happy) to say that I am one of the enablers in your life, I can’t help you break the cycle of addiction – I enjoy your blog too much to risk seeing it stop.

    • Dan, I love my enablers and I feel the same way about your blog. 🙂 I obsessed for a time about the number of followers, but realized that most of them are never seen or heard from again. I cherish those who’ve become regulars and friends, such as you. That’s one of the main reasons I keep blogging, besides it being so satisfying when I hit a post just right and it resonates with people

  14. yarnspinnerr says:

    Thanks to your addiction I get to read some marvelous stuff. 🙂

    • Thanks, I really appreciate reading that. I know I’ve done a lot less writing on my blog since dropping out of Friday Fictioneers, but although I enjoyed writing, trying to keep up with reading and cogently commenting on so many stories just burned me out. Maybe sometime again…


  15. Dymoon says:

    lol oh the crosses we have to bear ==^_^= life is good isn’t it

  16. Norm 2.0 says:

    It’s okay Janet you’re among fellow addicts who understand you perfectly 😉

  17. bythebriny says:

    Haha, I know the feeling, except I’m more addicted to photography than blogging–I only occasionally have the urge to write.

    • We both blog, Karen, because we have blogs. 🙂 You’re just addicted to photo blogging. My blog is mostly photography right now, not because I never feel like writing but because I run short of time to write and I love photography.


  18. I know the feeling. It is hard to go cold turkey without blogging.

    • I haven’t done it for over four years now, excluding the days as I mentioned in an earlier comment, when I scheduled posts in advance. But I do a post a day, so I count that as blogging every day. 🙂 When we’re on vacation, I really cut back on all other online time, but I always post.


  19. I hear you, sister. It’s an ongoing struggle to keep a balance. 🙂

  20. pattisj says:

    You speak for many of us, Janet. Mine followed pretty much the same path, but I haven’t gotten to the SLR stage yet! Happy four years and counting!

  21. Lignum Draco says:

    I could easily post 5 new street photos a day, every day but I choose not to. I limit my blogging time to only 2 posts a week in order to keep control. Seriously, real life is more important.

    • Real life is definitely more important. I may cut back at some point, but right now, I’m happy. I’d rather cut back on online time elsewhere. Thanks for stopping by and commenting.


  22. Allan G. Smorra says:

    What happens when a Blogger OD’s?
    Perhaps they just run out of words.

    Great post, Janet. There are much worse ways to spend your time. I’m glad that you found this one.

  23. Dear Janet,

    I’m thankful for your addiction. Without it we’d never have stood in my living room with three remotes trying to figure out the DVD player. 😉



  24. pommepal says:

    You have so hit a nerve with so many of us janet. Yes this blogging and photography go hand in hand in the addiction equation. One very good thing though is I have almost totally given up TV in preference to reading and visiting other bloggers each night. Long may WP stay with us for free….Now I will wait to see what you have for us in part 2!!!

    • Based on your comment, you’ll be right with me on part 2, which is out now. My husband and I watch a few programs on TV regularly and we watch sports together. Right now, we’re watching the playoffs for the Stanley Cup, which is hockey, a sport I’ve loved since I was young. We also watch the Tour de France when it’s on. But reading…ah, yes!

      • pommepal says:

        We have a recorder machine so any thing that interests, mainly documentaries, we record and then watch when it suits us, ie when I have caught up with the community… 🙂

  25. I confess … Yes, I have the addiction too. When I go on cruises and don’t have internet (because it’s too expensive) I crave having a connection. The feeling does pass after a couple of days. Once I arrive home I grab my laptop and I’m back to where I started. Now, I know what they mean when a smoker or alcoholic can’t quit. Gosh … I wonder if someday they’ll have a Bloggers Annonymous.
    LOL At least, we’re all i it together. It’s a nice bunch. 😎

  26. whimsigirly says:

    Keep blogging! 😁

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